Master Your Beliefs, Master Your Emotions
Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. dunkshoes, fenderprosonic, yorkpa. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. pugetsoundenergy, marylandlemonlaw. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe's comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless, and you're ready to bite his head off. californiastateassembly, discountwickerfurniture.

To be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, co-worker, manager, leader, or whatever role you're playing at the moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life. onlinepaycheckcalculator, bowlinggreenkentucky, targetdepartmentstores.

Managing your feelings doesn't mean that you repress them. motherdaughterrelationship, snorkelmasks. It means that you become aware of what's going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you, and act responsibly. bullterrierbreeders.

What is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. pubquiz, scaffoldindustryassociation. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. creditcardaccount, degreeprogram. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. homeloans, fenderbass, phlebotomyschoolsflorida. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. thesuffering, freeportjournalstandard, jimrohn. Emotional mastery is the ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action. huffysports.

Our emotions are a reflection of our beliefs about life events. countrywallpaperborders, energyvalero, recipekebab. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you are likely to feel an incredible amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. fairystatue. If you repress this fear, you'll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you will likely lash out at whoever s available. jasonisaacs, garageestimator, jimstafford.

If on the other hand, you are a person who views your job simply as one aspect of your life, and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. bipolarmanic. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to explore a whole new path for yourself. militarydinnerware.

The bottom line here is this: how you feel in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation. productdesign, siestakeyfl. Master your beliefs, and you'll master your emotions. shelfwall.

Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept. tributetodad, engineeringjobmarket, rightmanagementconsultant. If you feel upset about something, ask yourself, "How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that I can feel good or at least OK about it?" If you have a bill you can't pay for example, instead of getting upset, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. mesotheliomaasbestos. Ask for help, develop a plan, and use your energy to get moving on it. oasistheband, cliftonsuspensionbridge, oasisford.

How you think about your emotions adds another layer. krupscarafe. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get upset about feeling upset. nussbaumwrecker. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions, set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, "Do It."

- Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation. zerogravityrecliner.
- Guilt is the energy for personal change-it is anger directed toward ourselves, and anger is the energy for change. drugfordepression, constipationcures, linkingthreeway.
- Unworthiness keeps us on track--just as we can have anything we want, we can't have everything we want. birdhouseskateboarding. So too, we are worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want. fireworksydney.
- Hurt feelings are a reminder of how much we care. charlestonsctourism, waffleconemaker, illusionnecklacepearl.

So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them.
Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. joshhammer. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity, and with the question, what's this energy for and how do I choose to use it?

Practice. firewallcheckpoint, mulesaddle, collegeloanforgiveness. Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them. elizabethcarsongallery.

Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. vitaminetoxicity, tvdescrambler. Then, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion. financialreporting.

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Thought and Money - Clearing Your Memory for Success
Copyright 2005 Tania French
The less I remember, the better my day goes.
I know, that's a headscratcher of a statement.
The more I put a stop on remembering what happened yesterday, last week, many moons ago or just a few seconds back - the better I feel.
Whether those memories carry good or negative emotions doesn't make a difference. livecustomersupport. It's happened. smartballs, huntingblind, pianoconcerto. And thinking about it keeps me distracted. tenunitschematic. Because any memory carries emotional baggage.
It can be the best baggage ever, but it doesn't change the fact that it is my history. sprinklerparts, homelifestyles. And it has Absolutely Nothing to do with Now.
Remembering is reliving. wholesaleglassbottle. Reliving is not being alive.
Our hang-ups and gripes and bad habits are fed by our memories. stopblushing, namingorganiccompound. We make them festering wounds that can't heal because, through memory, we keep the source of the infliction alive. usedchiller, scrubhats. If we couldn't remember them, we'd be free of them.
Good memories are just as bad.
Remembering a pleasant experience blocks out the present one. federalelectioncanada, nyofficefurniture. And that's probably the intention. edmontonsunroom. The consequence to you and whoever or whatever is being tuned out is this – you have dropped off the face of the earth. petvet, timberlandeurodub, davidsbridalshop. You're not available. bmwmini, stephanielaurens. So, in actual fact, you might as well be living in a parallel universe. houseboattrips, catpink, wwfgames. It may be pleasant, but it's not real.
A clear mind is a most precious commodity. caseyraye, adultentertainment, oscodrug. Clarity is like a laserbeam of creativity. russiankids. Your beautiful life thrives on it.
A clear mind paves the way to a prosperous life. grapeivy, carpaltunnelexercises. A life of untold riches. casinobonuses, antelopevalleycourthouse, neisseriagonorrhoeae. When your mind is freed of emotional clutter, it has room to explore and create. sheermakeup, civilserviceexams. It becomes magnet for success.
Now it's your turn to Accept and experience. dothanalabama, kindergartenrubrics. Just believe me and try. airdehumidifier. Apply, apply, apply. poorcreditrefinancing, customnapkin. It is only when you apply any theory that you gain the experience to find your own truth. outlawdecoy, kayaksales. My truth doesn't matter to your life. criminologybook, slateblue, rabbitcostume. Find yours. shoulderholsters, apartmenttownhomes, lantisinsulin. Your experience is your proof. screwdriverband, pagodahotel. Wouldn't you want to prove that your life thrives as soon as you bury the past?
Friends, this really works. siriussataliteradio, biotechnologyventurecapital. Leave your memories to history. danglingearring. Surprise yourself into living a life of transcendent joy, unlimited prosperity, and luminous glory.
By now you realize that every change in your life manifests as a result of overhauling your thoughts. cityofdubuque, fiftiescostumes. Memories are just thoughts that were once alive and are now gone forever. directmailpromotions, hynixsemiconductor. Leave them be.
You can't fail your destiny once you accept it. freeonlineeducation, hooterstexas. Accept your creativity. presidentford, bucketsofcum. Accept your wisdom. woodrosin. Accept your greatness.
You cannot fail once you accept who and what you are.
So drop the memories. flowerarrange, babydinosaur, michelebachmann. Leave them in the dust. modularhouse. Wake up to the glories within you. bookmillenniumsport. Be adventurous. freshwaterpearlnecklace, opieanthony, factsaboutmeteorology. Be Fearless. saunastoves, calibrationpackage, hazardinsurancemortgage. Be a warrior. coloredcontactlenses, cookingfortwo, gatlinburgcabinrental. Your life is now in your good hands. wankingmaterial, churchlocator, controlflea. Enjoy!

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Tania French is a composer who has enjoyed performances and radio broadcasts of her music worldwide. curesorethroat. Her new CD "Renewal" (released December, 2005) will feature a rejuvenating fusion of new age, classical, and world songs.
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Surrender and Acceptance
One of the most useful concepts to grow spiritually and becoming
happier is the method of acceptance or surrender. fireworksspectacular.
I have personally found this method to be perhaps the most
workable and useful in retaining my poise and staying happier as
I go through life. outsidethermometer, businessvaluations, armtingling. Partly because of my upbringing no doubt, I
have had a life–long habit of being very self critical and
judgmental. nickandjessica, jaimeduende, wxyzdetroit. I have the habit of criticizing and feeling bad
about myself for every little thing that happened to me –
internally or externally. maricopacountywarrant, majestictheater. I tried to reason my way out of this
habit but it did not work – the habit is still with me. bigbrother. I also
feel guilty many times during the day when I am caught up with
my memories of times when I behaved badly. windowwashingsolution, laurelsrest, dementiapraecox.
For anybody in this situation, or anybody who feel negatively
about himself or the situation in which he finds himself the
proper attitude is that of acceptance and surrender. medicalassistantduties. Surrender
to the thoughts and feelings which arise in you. tubcaulk, mtvcribs. If you are
feeling bad about yourself, or your relationships, or your work
or anything about your life–situation welcome and accept that
feeling. donkeybutt. Surrender to it, perhaps it was what was meant to
happen at this time. recordingmicrophones, traxxasrustler. Watch the feeling with as much detachment
as you can. discountwig. It will pass as it must; all things in this world
are impermanent. tinhoc.
In the classic spiritual bestseller – The Power of Now – Eckhart
Tolle advises us to treat whatever negative feeling that arises
in your mind as a message saying, "Attention – Here and Now.
Wake up – Get out of your mind – be present". smythetrophy.
Surrender does not mean resignation to your life situation. cutoffsaw, recyclinglogo. If
you are stuck in the mud you don't say "I resign myself to being
stuck in the mud" and do nothing about it. pokerplayer, marinepropellershafts, parabolicantenna. If you have lost your
job, if you find yourself trapped in a bad relationship or in
any situation that you find intolerable then obviously you must
do something about it. childprotectionact, hardhatdiving, hanoverinsurancegroup. We all need to plan and work to change
certain aspects of our lives. goldenbooks, zebracomforter. I am not telling you to blame your
fate or destiny for everything that happens and do nothing about
it. europeanroyalty, duedatecalculator, putasperuanas.
What I am asking you to do is to surrender to everything, which
is happening to you – internally and externally at this
instant in your life. universitytrustscheme, flinflonreminder. If you are trapped in the morning rush
during your daily long commute to work, then accept whatever is
happening – inside and outside – at that instant. whitewickerhamper, modernarmoire. Surrender to
your feelings of freedom, irritation and frustration. dresserandarmoires. Don't
repress those feelings – accept them, surrender to them. scottcarpenter, costlumber.
Surrender to the long life of cars or the crowd in the bus or
local train. tightcars, blitzleage, interracialxxx. Accept your present situation – at that instant –
fully and without reservation. bloodglucosereading. This should not prevent you from
changing what can and needs to be changed. bailbondagent, selectquote, plasterceiling. Perhaps you can get
another job, or shift to another branch of your company closer
to your home. readinghelp, memphisspeakers. Perhaps you can take the bus to your office
instead of driving yourself. tuxrentals. You can make use or your daily
commute by reading a newspaper or a book or doing some work.
Change what can be changed, surrender to what is happening at
this instant – the one thing that you cannot change.
For a more detailed discussion on the concept of acceptance and
surrender please refer the classic bestseller
The Power of Now
by Eckhart Tolle, available at Amazon. Here is the link to the
site:-
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